Right , It has been in the back of my mind that my eldest son now almost 10 could have some sort of mild aspergers.
He has had difficulty making friends whilst in school in the past, but he is now home ed, and he is still a little awkward at being social, although I feel he manages ok, now that he is not having so much enforced socialisation.
He mainly finds it difficult to communicate his needs and feelings effectively, and can be quite overcome by emotions sometimes.
He is also extremely obstinate at times. I can get very frustrated at his total lack of communication at times, and it can be really difficult to get him to speak up. I think that I can usually tell what the problem is before he speaks, so that complicates things as I want him to speak up for himself, as everyone else in the world obviously wont be able to read his mind.
He doesnt have a lack of empathy, and he is very imaginative so I am not sure if it is a mild aspergers syndrome or not.
I do know that he is a highly sensitive child, which he gets from me.
I am wondering if I have been burying my head in the sand and refusing to acknowledge his difficulty in communicating.
Can anyone tell me if a child with aspergers can only have some of the symptoms?
Or is he unlikely to have mild aspergers if he can empathise, and has a great imagination?
When my sister was small they thought that she might be ASD, perhaps Asperger’s but gladly, she was not, she is however, dyslexic. Nevertheless, the only way that you can truly tell is to have an Ed Psych test and report, really. A great Ed Psych is Martin Turner, google him, he’s still working, he handled my sister’s case and is an excellent professional and a caring man. I hope your son’s situation is worked out and a plan put in place for him soon, I empathise with how this can feel for you, it’s tough but you’ll both make it better soon, I am sure. x
To get a dx of AS they do need to have the ‘triad of impairments’ But if he has some of the symptoms then he could get a dx of ‘PDD-NOS’ which is Pervasive Development Disorder-Not Otherwise Specified (or something LOL!)
Hope that helps, please PM me if you want to ask anything - we’ve been through many years of being uncertain as to whether to go down the formal diagnosis route and during that time I have picked up quite a bit of info.
Oh and just to clarify - I have no idea if he does or doesn’t, but I do think parents know best in the vast majority of cases and if you have that feeling then it’s worth investigating just for your own peace of mind
Hmmmm, that sounds a lot like my DD in many ways. I too consider her to be highly sensitive and of course aspects of this (difficulties with sensory processing) does overlap with ASD, which is why it gets confusing!
I have often wondered whether DD is Aspergers…...but like your son she also is empathetic and has a good imagination. A person with an ASD would not have these qualities.
She has social difficulties and I would say she has communication difficulties (more likely to throw herself on the floor screaming than articulate what is wrong!). I happen to think her very particular problem is with EMOTION, other peoples and her own. She has difficulty expressing emotion in a ‘normal’ way and she is greatly affected by emotions of people around her. She feels things VERY strongly. This obviously affects her social interactions.
I found it more helpful to think of high sensitivity as its other name: Sensory Processing Disorder. Google this and see what comes up if you havent already done so. I think its more helpful because high sensitivity gives the impression it is JUST a personality trait and there is actually more to it.
Anyway, Im sure Im not telling you stuff you dont already know, but after all that, I think its useful to ask yourself whether your sons difficulties or unique abilities are having a big negative impact on his life? If so, then that is probably the point at which you may find further investigations helpful.
Good luck! Sarahx
Wow! Lots of info to check out.
When reading up about it I thought that he couldnt have it if he has good empathy and imagination.
I dont want to take him down the formal processing route. My Dh has also said that he doest think getting a label; will help him at all.
Thanks Leikima, I will look up the PDD-NOS thing.
And thanks Yamba, I too think that his main “problem” is emotions and how he processes them and expresses himself.