Does anyone HE their highly sensitive child?

We plan on home educating Rowan, who is highly sensitive/spirited.  We have always said that we will home ed until he is about 7 then see how we are getting on.

Rowan is apprehensive in new situtaions and people call him shy, as with a lot of HSC.

However, I am curently reading the Highly sensitive child book and she suggests a little ‘trauma’ in the early years will beneift them in the long run, i.e: sending them to preschool for 5 mornings a week would be better as they are at least getting used to having to not be ‘shy’.  Whereas keeping them at home is setting them up to fail. (not her words , but my interpretation)

Rowan has a very busy home ed life as there is a lot going on down here in the way of groups.

So I was just wondering if any of you mamas have a HSC at home and how you are finding it?

Hi

I am HE my 4.5 year old HSC DS. TBH he finds so many other aspects of life traumatic - not least the shadows and monsters that haunt him every night - that I think he does experience enough trauma to stretch him. I think FT school, which he should now be in, would send him over the edge LOL. If you are out and about lots, meeting people, trying new things, I don’t see the problem. Surely school, which is so not set up to deal with HSCs would just cause irreparable psychological damage??? JMHO though!

Hugs and good luck in your HE journey

Beck xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

Hey Beck,
I have been thinking about this more today and have come up with the same opinion too!

Good luck with your journey too
Michelle x

Hi there, I have a HS DD who is 4 plus. From thinking of her, who is HS but also needs a lot of stimulation, coupled with plenty of downtime, I think as long as you have activities to go to a few times a week then thats enough. I *think* Im going to go down the flexi route with her, because I think full time would be too much.
If school was a completely positive experience, then yes I get what the book is saying, it could give them lots of confidence, however, you can achieve the same effect I guess with clubs or groups or whatever whilst HE’ing.
I would say DD HAS gained a lot of confidence from going to playschool but I have kept it very much at her pace, so although we get 5 free morns she started on just 3, interestingly she has decided now that she’d really like to go 4 morns, so her experience has been very positive & at exactly her pace & what she can cope with. School is a bit different though and I would like to HE, but where we currently live with a very limited HE scene, I just do not think it will provide the right balance. I think if I had plenty of groups etc like you, then Id think that would be fine, enough to challenge your HSC but not overwhelm him. So thats more the thing to get right & I dont think it has much to do with school Vs HE iygwim.

We have actually booked an appointment to see our nearest nice sounding school, maybe flexi school, don;t know yet!