Im just after a little bit of guidance here if I can?
My daughter, jjst turned 2, has been very poorly the past 3 weeks and so I know she has had a lot of deal with physically and emotionally. She is very aware of herself for her age and does find situations very overwhelming and so I always follow her lead, making sure she feels safe and comfortable before we go ahead with anything. I know to some people I seem over caring for her, but I dont see it this way as she is very independant by nature but also very sensitive and so therefore if I can limit the amount of stress for her, then I will, as in my opinion that is what we are here to do…to help our children become the people they want to be. But thats a bit off topic…anyway, the past few days she has had some pretty intense meltdowns. We’ve always had fairly good communication (I feel) and Ive never struggled to know what to do, but honeslt yesterday (she had 2 yesterday) I really didnt know what to do. I felt bemused and helpless.
Nothing triggered them (well nothing apparent anyway, though I am well aware the past few weeks could have taken its toll on her, but the obvious things ie hunger, tiredness, loneliness etc were not the reasons) and she was crying to much and screaming out to be to be cuddled (which I was doing) but it was as if she couldnt see me through getting into so much of a state. It was really horrible to see her so distressed and all I could do was hold her (thats what she wanted me to do as best as I could make out) and quietly tell her (which she couldnt hear as she was really loud) that she is safe and I am here.
When she calmed down (about 40 minutes later) she couldnt remember what was the issue (When normally she can…as I said above, very aware for her age) and went off to focus her attention on something else. I gave her some rescue remedy and she seemed ok after but it was very surreal…she was almost shaking with fear (I guess of her emotions?)
I just wondered what you do in these situations?
My mum suggested to keep a little journal of them so I can identify for myself what the triggers may be and how best to help her..that sounds like a good idea to me. Today has been fine (apart from a potty fiasco but thats something different!!)
Its really unnerving to see her so out of control, but I think I kept it together as best as I could (I could have easy freaked out too thinking she was ill or something else irrational!)
If you read my long and probably very uninteresting post Im grateful already.
Any thoughts welcomed x