When I went from one child to two it took me so long to get back to normal. I was quite shocked how much more difficult it was, i didn’t count on the independent 2.5 yr old that took up most of my energy.  It’s a gradual thing where you think from the start everything should snap in to place pretty quickly but looking back i realise i put far too much pressure on myself and found myself feeling really very low many times.  and also like a failure (for not getting things done), which is so stupid.  If there is any time in your life where you can cut yourself some slack it’d when you have a new baby and as Edith say, until they can sit and play it’s hard to have any kind of normalacy.  Please take care of yourself and do one thing a day that you can enjoy. Big Hugs. xx