I do wonder often if society was more open and less judgemental regarding gender, whether there would be a need for sex changes etc. I wonder if those who go through the change would feel the need if they had been accepted for who they are in the body they have. And yes I think we should celebrate open minded parents that do not pigeon box their children.
A friend of mine has similar issues with her son - well, it’s not an issue for her, but other people, strangers mostly can be so thoughtless. The boy is also autistic and bobbles, princess outfits etc are a part of what makes him feel safe and emotionally secure. We were with her the other week and he lost one of his bobbles and was distraught. So I crocheted him a flower to wear in his hair, he loved it and harmony was restored… the looks from some of the other parents was saddening though. He also has got very distressed about his penis and because she was so worried about him trying to chop it off himself, she has talked to him about sex changes and said when he’s older and if he still wants to change she will support him. This seems to have stemmed the threats that he was going to cut it off…and I have to say, she isn’t placating him either, she will support him, if that is what he wants when he’s older.