With most stuff, we try to just display the behaviour we would prefer, or, with more “academic” stuff, gently point out mistakes and encourage Grace to try again. Recently though, she has been “parenting” her doll in ways which quite honestly are an anathema to us - pretending to put him in a cot and shut the door while he “cries”, smacking and shouting at him etc etc, and also things which are not so awful, but we don’t do, such as bottle feeding and using pushchairs.
I’m aware that she gets this stuff from most of the rest of the world really - books, however carefully we vet, often seem to have babies shut away and/or crying, and obviously she sees lots of pushchairs and bottles in her everyday life. However, we do go to LLL meetings and AP groups - I’d really like her to see those things as normal.
My instinct is to say “that’s not how we treat babies”, but it feels like a very different style to the one we have been employing. As much as I say that everyone trys to parent in the best way they know, it would concern me if my children chose to smack their kids and practise CIO. I know that’s really judgemental….
I don’t really know how we proceed with this - I’m uncomfortable just ignoring it, but also uncomfortable telling her that what is essentially a personal decision - how to parent - is wrong….