With dd and ds1 we part time co-slept. They were right next to my side of the bed in a crib but they’d normally come in from halfway through the night and stay there til morning. They both did this til they were about 3 or 4yrs old.
When they were tiny they’d sleep in between us under their blankets and we’d shove the duvet down on us so it didn’t cover them and if it was cold we’d have another normal blanket over our upper bodies.
We were discussing getting a mattress for the crib the other day for the baby and then discussed maybe just solely co-sleeping and not bothering with the crib….until I read that “under no circumstances should you co sleep if you are extremely tired” and all the other obvious ones such as not if you’ve been drinking or smoking etc. So then that got me worried about permanently co sleeping with no crib option at all - because with a new baby and two school age children to cope with surely there will be times when I/we are “extremely tired”. When ds was tiny I was in a permanent state of exhaustion - so much so for the first couple of months I never even woke when he’d cry for his feed during the night and he was right next to me!! Thankfully DH would always wake up!
Now, I must explain that I am pretty certain I had PND for at least 2yrs after ds was born (undiagnosed as didn’t want to see the GP) so that could have possibly explained the extreme tiredness…but obviously there’s no guarantee I won’t get it again.
Also, with regards to co sleeping - we have a mattress topper - I guess the baby can’t sleep on that, but I was thinking about shifting the topper over so I’m still on it but the baby is on the normal mattress underneath (have him next to me and not in between us) and then fit the bed guard to my side to stop him falling out. But then when the mattress topper next to him is he at risk of turning into that? Should I just get rid of the topper completely until he’s older?
Also, our mattress is pretty old (can’t afford a new one right now) - will steaming it be sufficient to get it clean enough for a newborn?
Please tell me what you have done to combat these issues as DH is especially worried about it all.
Thank you! x x x