Hello all, I would *love* your suggestions to resolve an issue.
DS is (and always has been) active, loud and touchy feely. He needs physical contact 24/7. He hates sleeping, always has. Dropped his nap about a year ago. He does still need naps, and the rare days he does take them are much nicer, but I got sick of waging WWIII, so I gave up.
DD LOVES her naps, and would take 2 a day still, if she could. Mornings she can, since usually he’s at school, or on weekends, DH can occupy him. Afternoons during the week she usually can not, because I have not found a way yet to get DS to respect the concept of quiet time. Ok, that’s not entirely true. I was plugging him into a DVD, but that has become problematic (more in a bit). I tried getting DS involved in the napping process, reading a story to his sister, laying still and snuggling while she nurses…nothing doing. He wants to be in the room with us, but only if he can climb all over me.
I tried moving him into his room to read. This results him him singing (in his inside voice, which is the same as most kids’ outside voices), jumping around and throwing things. He’s having a great time, but the noise is disruptive, and DD doesn’t nap.
I’ve tried getting him into an art project, but even with playdough he’s too young to be unsupervised, and the cleaning I have to do afterwards, was prohibitive to anything else.
I did try DVD’s. Those works, until the movie is over and I try to turn off the TV. That results in a huge battle, and him having a tantrum, which means screaming, very loudly (despite my trying to get him to quiet down) and DD wakes up. Plus DH uses the TV on the weekends when he has lots of work he wants to accomplish and I need to get some of my things done, so I try to have no TV during the week.
So afternoons have devolved into one of the middle circles of hell, with him bouncing off the walls, her grumpy and overtired (read constantly crying) and me cranky and bitter at the whole situation.
Try as I might, I can not find his volume button to turn it down. He knows how to be quiet at school but it doesn’t come home with him. I have even stooped to putting him outside on the front porch when he’s screaming, until he quiets down, since screaming is for outside. Now, sometimes he asks to go out there when he needs to scream (only sometimes), so I guess it’s giving him something.
Do you guys have any suggestions as to how I can ameliorate this? I’ve thought about reinstating the DVD, and outings (walks, errands) in the afternoon, but am not excited to do that with two grumpy kids.