Just wanted to see what you all think about some advice I was given today by our local health visitor. The situation is thus: DD2, nearing 11 months, feeds probably a half-dozen times a day and has yet to take terribly much interest in food, though she sits with us for each meal and sometimes toys with bits and bobs quite successfully (we’re taking the BLW approach as it worked really well with DD1, though she wasn’t a sleeper either so I’ve nothing to compare… Hang on: I’m getting ahead of myself!). She’s on the 75th centile, so not fading away (!) and a very happy baby generally, although teething is causing her the usual woes. Anyway, the thing is that we’re in the middle of renovating our house, so DH is working loooooong hours on that (lime-plastering the downstairs of our house at the moment, which means we’re living in just the kitchen and the bedrooms, accessed only through the work site, and haven’t had a sofa or anywhere decent to sit since March!) and things are a little stressful as a result, and added to that there are various stresses coming in that I am going back to (part-time) work in mid-August, DD1 is starting (very part-time) school in September, DH has reasonably severe depression and we haven’t got enough money, time or energy for all that life seems to throw at us just now. Against this backdrop, DD2, quite reasonably from her point of view, wakes probably three times a night, and has, until the last week or so, had a feed to get back to sleep. Given that she’s doing really well and is pretty chilled out, I decided to see if stopping feeding her every time would help her to sleep a little longer at a stretch; she’s not too bothered about the feeds, it seems, but isn’t really waking less. She’s in with me, partly because I just like it, and it’s easy, and partly because DD1’s room is half-full of displaced stuff from downstairs!
HV reckons I should be giving her vitamin drops, which I wouldn’t need if she was formula-fed apparently, and should be working towards getting her to feed only twice or so a day.
This seems counter-intuitive to me. I can’t believe that formula is superior, really (no disrespect to those choosing to formula-feed; just my point of view - it seems unlikely to me that nature would miss out something a baby needs at this point!), or that cutting back on what she’s getting calorie-wise would make her sleep better. Anyone any experience to suggest to the contrary? I can see that perhaps getting her to take a greater interest in table food might shift her towards things which take longer to digest, so am thinking about whether or not we’re ready to stop, say, the feed she normally has when she gets up from a nap, but I’m not willing to compromise our feeding relationship beyond that, I don’t think. I fed DD1 until very recently (and would still, really, if she was insistent - she was four in June), and it’s important to me to give DD2 the best start I can…
I would like to get a bit more uninterrupted sleep…! I’d really hoped we’d have time and energy to try different tacks before I start working again in mid-August, but it seems like we’re going to be going full-tilt on the house stuff if we’re to finish the renovations even vaguely by that point, and it would just make life so much easier to have some semblance of a normal house by the time I’m doing that again, so we’ve always prioritised that, which means DH getting decent sleep so he can work on the house and whatnot. The result is that I’m on duty 24/7, really.
She has a settled sort of day, and I’m not daft at night - low lights, quietness, quick resettling and whatnot - I’m not one to completely ignore, avoid talking or do the controlled withdrawal sort of thing.
Could just do with some reassurance from like-minded mamas, really, and any magic tips you may have would also be most welcome. :o) Everyone I know seems to have babies who sleep all night from the age of five minutes, or they’re living in houses which aren’t buggered… Ho hum.