I’m with Edith, gun play - happy with it in our house, as long as not as us and time spent playing it is limited - we come from a military family, he will be taught to use firearms safely.
As for tv, I think it can be really good. We don’t have a tv license, so we stream/youtube/DVD’s.
Whilst we don’t use it everyday, it’s not a babysitter, sometimes we will put something on for Ru if he wants it. Not every time he asks, mind you though.
On this topic before, I remember a Mama posting that tv ‘makes children turn off’, and another Mama responding that we as adults need ‘switch off’ time, why shouldn’t children need
it too? Which is a very fair point.
Sometimes if Ru needs sitting down/switch off time, he’ll read books (alone, or with us), sometimes he draws and sometimes he just wants to watch some television.
Maybe if the tv or films are affecting a child a lot, it may be because they’re not exposed to them that often, so it does affect them more.
Maybe it’s an age thing too. Ru used to be more aggressive after certain films, but they just don’t seem to have the same effect now. Maybe this is because we recently read Playful Parenting and have incorporated more ‘aggressive’, rough-and-tumble play into our days, so it presents itself there, instead of in response to the film.
Also, I have to say, Edith made the most amazing gunplay point EVER!
“I truly and utterly do not believe that playing with guns makes kids any less clear about the morality of real gun use. Gun / wand/ sword play is really, IMHO, a prop for them to work through some far more complex ideas about good vs evil, right vs wrong, whether might= right and so on.”