Hi all.  I’m 10 weeks pg now and I have the dating scan next week.  For some reason I have no idea why I am terrified.  I keep getting this horrible feeling something’s wrong.  I don’t know why, there has been no indication of a problem, and I never had a problem with the other two, I just feel paranoid that they are going to tell me they can’t find a heartbeat.  I feel awful posting as I know there are many people on here who have had problems wither conceiving or losing babies, but DH thinks I’m being silly, and we haven’t told parents yet for various reasons, so I can’t even talk to my mum.  Dh can’t come with me to the scan, so I have asked a friend to come with me, which is great, but I still feel really scared.  Is this a normal thing, am I just being silly?

We had told everyone by 7 weeks but I was still paranoid. To the extent that I would only say “if the baby is ok” whenever I spoke about pregnancy/birth or the baby himself. I felt more wary and careful over things with #3 than I did with #1 or 2.

Big hugs. I could say “don’t worry” or a million other things but you feel how you feel and nothing anyone can say will change that. All I can say is just try and relax for the next week as much as possible and I hope all goes well. x x x x x

I felt the same with number 3&4. I think for me it was the fact that I knew quite a few people by that point who had suffered a loss, and I felt I had been so lucky with my previous pregnancies (I discounted all the other things that happened in my pregnancies:spd, thyroid problems, carpal tunnel, gestational diabetes to name a few- just saw these as the hurdles of pregnancy, and still enjoyed every day of it) in always ending up with a healthy baby that I felt sure I wouldn’t be so lucky next time. You have been having the lovely symptoms- sickness, tiredness which is all good. I tried to look forward to that amazing feeling you get when you see your little baby all wriggly instead, which helped a little. I also tried to forget about it for a bit, which it turned out was actually too easy as I turned up a day late for the scan!

Thanks guys, glad I’m not just freaking out!  I never had a problem with the other two babies, well apart form the general guilt I felt over my c section and the pain I went through with Oliver who was back to back, but obviously that was way later.  I think I have worked out where it came from as last night I had a dream about going to the scan and them not finding a heartbeat, I told DH in tears and he told me I was just remembering the program we watched ages ago about twins, where that happened with one of the babies.  I hand’t even remembered seeing it, but obviously my subconcious does.  I’ve signed up for the babycentre weekly updates, cause I loved getting those last time, and last night I could feel a hard lump where the womb is supposed to over over the top of my pelvis, so I guess its definitely growing if I can feel that now.  Just going to take your advice and try and relax till next week!

Hello

Sympathy from here - I am in the same position. Scan is next week and I am so paranoid. I’m at the exact day in pregnancy today that I was when I started to miscarry earlier in the year, it’s like my body is remembering somehow and I am feeling really neurotic. Everything seems fine this time, but I guess the more pregnancies we have, the more aware we are of all the things that could go wrong (example of paranoia - I just typed ‘will go wrong’ instead of could..).

Go easy on yourself and I’m sure all will be well for both of us.

blessings
Hexate

Thanks Hexate, I’m sure things will be fine for both us us. xxx

Again, I agree totally normal. I lost my first early on, and wouldn’t let myself get excited second time around. I too used the phrase “if the baby is okay…”, “if nothing bad happens” etc, I almost felt like I was tempting fate by letting myself get excited about it, I was almost in denial until I was pretty big! (even then, you don’t really stop worrying then!). Next time I will try and enjoy instead! I would have loved to have kept a pregnancy diary but I felt that was getting too excited and meant something was bound to happen if I accepted I was pregnant and God forbid, WROTE about it!!

Just wanted to post again and say that I had my scan this morning, everything is normal and fine, and thankfully there is only one, which was another thing I was worried about due to there being twins and triplets on both sides!  Thanks for all the support mamas, am going to lie back and enjoy this one!

Fingers crossed for you Hexate.  xxx

Brilliant news Anriel, glad all is OK. My scan is this afternoon, getting nervous but also looking forward to it, because I just want to know and not have all these random worries. Will let you know how it goes!

blessings
Hexate