Sorry that this is a bit of a long post, but please bear with me as I need to get it all out, and writing is the best way I do it.
I have been thinking about HE for my kids for some time now, in-fact I was thinking about it before DD started school in 2006, I had thought about it since she was about a year old. I didnâ€™t research it or look into it and just went with standard mainstream primary education at school. However, very recently, I started looking into it. In-fact I’ve spent the last two days on the net getting the lowdown on my legal rights and responsibilities etc.
HE really fits in with my spiritual beliefs and philosophy on life. I want nothing more than the best for my family in all aspects of life.
I have been to the following sites and registered with a few Netmums, educationsene, THEN UK, Home-education.org, South Yorkshire Home Education Communication and the BBC.
I now feel that I am well supplied with the facts and figures. Now what I need is personal experience, insight, input from those who are already there and doing it.
DH is ok with the idea of either HE or mainstream. But having recently mentioned it to other members of the family, (my mum), I got shot down in a blaze of negativity that I was not expecting from her. She usually gives me lots of support in what I do re the kids. She has always been a strong anchor for me and a great influence in my life. Her support and encouragement has been so beneficial to me through my life, especially through the tough days at school when I was bullied and wished I didnâ€™t have to go.
Her main argument against HE is the social side of things, making friends and interacting with other kids, the isolation she will experience. This is also a concern for me, but one that I think I have the answers to.
Some background info:
My daughter is in mainstream primary Y2, 7 years old.
My son is 4, has an ASD, and is currently attending an intervention nursery which finishes for him at Feb half term. I have until Jan 30th to register him at school if that’s the way I want to go.
I am also expecting baby flump in the next couple of weeks.
I feel very strongly about giving my kids the best education.
It won’t be hard to keep DS at home as he’s not at school yet anyway, and although he is 4, his learning abilities and his mental state are that of a child closer to 2. The ASD needs may be a challenge but I feel confident we can accomplish the necessary criteria for his needs.
My main concern is for my daughter.
Before she started school she was bright and bubbly, a good natured child full of life and fun. She was a joy to be around. She was also bright in her learning, a level about a year ahead of her age.
I really thought she’d do well at school. She started nursery at 4 and was there 7 months and we had no problem.
We looked forward to reception starting. When it did she started to change, gradually at first but with ever increasing speed, her personality and her behavior. By the summer we could tell a difference, yet when the summer hols came she was back to her old self.
Y1 started and her behavior became unbearable, both at home and at school. She also started having difficulty with attention and concentration. She also started having difficulty with her general learning and couldnâ€™t grasp things. Her handwriting, reading, spelling and numeracy have hit rock bottom. Her behavior at home has gone down hill. She has become aggressive, angry, and a little violent. Her attitude really stinks and she has become more like a grumpy, angry teenager. Everything is â€œnot fairâ€, â€œno one loves meâ€, etc.
This behavior has continued into Y2.
She also suffers terribly with her health. She suffers with life threatening anaphylaxis which has weakened her immune system. Therefore she picks up viruses and infections quickly; they stay with her for longer than average and are more severe than normal.
As a result she has a lot of time off school. So much time the school has involved the welfare office because her attendance is poor; 80.9% last half term. Apparently, regular attendance at school is vital, like I donâ€™t know this!
I have been more than reasonable in my efforts to help the school and WO understand her health problems; I have even given them permission to contact the GP, and all the hospital departments, to access her medical files as proof of her being poorly when she is. I always take her to the Drâ€™s when sheâ€™s ill, even if they say itâ€™s a virus now go away. At least itâ€™s there on her file!
I do sometimes get my little chicken back, when we spend time crafting or out walking in the local nature reserve.
I feel that if I started HE it would help with more than just improving her education. I have sat her down and explained it to her and asked if she would want to do it and she says she would.
I would love to take her out of school now and start straight away with HE, but with flump due to make an appearance soon Iâ€™m not sure if now is the right time, yet every fiber within me is saying do it.
She is very unhappy, but we havenâ€™t yet managed to establish whatâ€™s going on. She comes home from school and tells me that â€œso and soâ€ wouldnâ€™t let her play with them at play time, and â€œso and soâ€ was horrible to her. Thereâ€™s some sort of bullying going on but the school assures me that all is well.
I am at the stage where I really want to HE but Iâ€™m I wanting it for the right reasons, could a change of schools be all she needs?
A very confused Clazbear xx