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I’m at a complete loose end. Just recently got an ergo as my boy was getting much too heavy for me to cokmfortably carry in the close. He liked the close. He hates the ergo. He screams until he falls asleep but really doesn’t like it. Its also no better on my back as he is really weighty. I can’t afford to keep buying slings, so its kind of ergo or nothing now. He screams so much that I’m getting hot and bothered and already in pain, is it better to just put him a buggy as he’d cry anyway? Not a very AP thing to say but I don’t know what to do. Going out is becoming a chore!

Can you wrap? Because if you can I might have an offer for you…..

purplecavingcat - 05 January 2013 07:37 PM

Can you wrap? Because if you can I might have an offer for you…..

I’ve not tried- I always imagine it to be tricky! I wonder sometimes if he just generally doesn’t like slings? He is very big for 16 weeks and though we cosleep and naps on me he quite likes the freedom to move around?

My DD was happy in a wrap till about 4 months, then wouldn’t tolerate sling at all (so we used buggy) till she was about 11 months, then couldn’t get enough of the Mai tai till she was far too heavy to carry (2 1/2 ish!). All babies are different I guess as my ds on the other hand was happy to be carried in anything and everything up to about 18 months!
Maybe have a break and then try again in a bit…..

AJ x

I used A Moby till my little boy was a similar age. I’ve never been able to afford a woven even second hand they seem to be out of my budget but I do have a wonderful Mei tai which a lovely mama on here sold me. Not sure what ds weighs now but he was 21lbs just before Christmas and I can carry him on my front or back with no back problems. Its very soft and snugly like the Moby (which is like the close) The me I tai is a babylonia BB-tai .

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Never tried an Ergo but I’ve always assumed they’re more firm and structured and not as snuggly… But I may be wrong. X x x x

I think there may be a few ‘sling libraries’ around if budget is an issue but you want to try something else.  Not sure on any details though, sorry…

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DS alway hated any sling I tried. He much preferred being in the buggy. I never considered it a failure of AP - just what worked for us!
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Have you tried him on your back? My ds3 hated front carries from really early on, so from about 3 weeks we back carried.

If a buggy works for him then go with the buggy. There are no prizes for 100% AP-ing (if that even exists).

moggy - 05 January 2013 10:15 PM

If a buggy works for him then go with the buggy. There are no prizes for 100% AP-ing (if that even exists).

or as my partner calls it ‘martyring it out’!!! Thanks for all your input- I might just give him a try in the buggy- its outwards facing though as I only ever used it for my dd when she was older so might try to borrow a parent facing one for him to try. No harm in trying I guess.

I’d buy the ergo if you wanted to sell it wink

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moggy - 05 January 2013 10:15 PM

If a buggy works for him then go with the buggy. There are no prizes for 100% AP-ing (if that even exists).

I agree, I had a pram which I used to use for the days when I had so much to carry that I could not manage baby as well.  If a pram works go for it, maybe when he is older he will want to return to being carried more.

What model of Ergo do you have?

“Its also no better on my back as he is really weighty”
He won’t feel weightless in a sling, but he should feel a lot more supported and lighter in the Ergo than the Close.
If not then you need to readjust the straps/tweak it a bit, or the Ergo is not the right sling for you and bubs, especially if you’re finding it painful to use.

There are Slingmeets and slinglibraries all over the UK, some hire out nationally.
Definitely worth having a play with some different types of slings if poss. The right sling makes a huge difference and you can always trade/sell the Ergo (and/or Close if you still have it).
http://ukslinglibraries.wordpress.com/

http://www.slingmeet.co.uk/forums/forum.php

” is it better to just put him a buggy as he’d cry anyway? “
I’ld just end up picking bubs up, trying to carry him in arms/comfort him while pushing the buggy at the same time :(

newmami - 06 January 2013 11:07 AM

What model of Ergo do you have?

“Its also no better on my back as he is really weighty”
He won’t feel weightless in a sling, but he should feel a lot more supported and lighter in the Ergo than the Close.
If not then you need to readjust the straps/tweak it a bit, or the Ergo is not the right sling for you and bubs, especially if you’re finding it painful to use.

There are Slingmeets and slinglibraries all over the UK, some hire out nationally.
Definitely worth having a play with some different types of slings if poss. The right sling makes a huge difference and you can always trade/sell the Ergo (and/or Close if you still have it).
http://ukslinglibraries.wordpress.com/

http://www.slingmeet.co.uk/forums/forum.php

” is it better to just put him a buggy as he’d cry anyway? “
I’ld just end up picking bubs up, trying to carry him in arms/comfort him while pushing the buggy at the same time :(

I know he won’t feel weightless in any sling! I meant because I have ongoing back problems, not on my back in the ergo.the ergo isn’t painful, its the close that was painful because he was too big for it, the ergo is comfy however as I have back issues, no sling is ever totally comfortable for me. The thing about crying in the buggy was meant in jest because I’ve never tried him in a buggy so I don’t know how he’ll react to it. Carrying him in arms while pushing a buggy and keep hold of my 3 year old isn’t my idea of fun- so ideally I’d rather he liked the sling or liked the buggy. I’m not going. Force him to be in arms if he’d prefer not to be. I go to a sling meet but you have to pay a fee to borrow the slings and its hard geting to them all the time as I have my older child with me and the nearest sling meet is a train ride away. So its the ergo or nothing now as I’ve just spend a small fortune on it. I’m also borrowing my sister in laws very cosy looking parent facing buggy this week to see how he gets on. Never know. And jacqui, what you say about it not being any less AP is very true if the child has preferance for it, so thank you smile

I don’t know for how long you’ve been trying your new sling, but I heard somewhere that it takes about 2 weeks to get used to a new sling. Yes, I think some sling libraries do mail lending.

We love wrapping; so versatile, and learnt the best style for front carry from Didymos and the back carry and the hip csrry from YouTube; once you get the hang of it, you can do it eyes closed in matter of seconds. We don’t own a buggy. Toby is 10 months old now; when he was 5 months old I sprained my ankle and my dad came to help, so we borrowed a friend’s buggy so my dad can take him for a ride, but Toby hated it, so we ended up not using it.

It’s worth trying a few different styles of slings to find which one suits you and your little one. We have 4 wraps (Didymos), a Manduca (similar to an Ergo), a ring sling (Didymos), and a Didytai (similar to a Mei tai). But, we mainly use the wraps. Where do you live? We can lend you a few different styles if you want. If you live too far, then I can post them to you, maybe? PM me if you want.

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Are Ergos not fairly wide? and he’ll be too big for the newborn insert.  Maybe it’s uncomfortable on his knees and spreading his hips too wide. Definitely try him with another type of sling, they will make your life sooo much easier! The resale value of a genuine ergo will be pretty good if you just can’t get it to work.

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