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I got asked yesterday if Jude was too hot in the mei-tai (wearing a nappy and T-shirt) by someone pushing a baby who was wearing a coat and a fleece blanket…. smile

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Crazy! People just can’t handle baby wearing sometimes!

Reminds me of when someone said when I was carrying Roan in his Kari Me sling “no wonder he’s got eczema all cooped up like that!” Sadly I was in such a state about him being poorly that was the last time he went in the sling :-(

Mum to two boys, Roan (Nov 08) and Jude (Oct 11) and a little girl, Amalie (Jan 14). Trying to parent as gently and lovingly as I can.

How unusual! I had a couple tell me quite out of the blue that im selfish for making my toddler sit ‘in that thing’. I pointed out that my (then) 8 month old was not a toddler and that i could assure them it was a 2 way enjoyment thing smile. Im not sure whether they thought i was holding my poor child against his will…but given that he was snuggled up asleep at the time im not quite sure what gave them this idea. I guess in life there will always be people that dont understand things. But instead of trying to understand it, they criticise. Im ok with that (as im sure you are too angie!) i dont need anyones validation for my choices…particularly that of a passerby who knows zilch about us.

Nah, didn’t bother me, but I was a bit stunned that someone could , without a glimmer of humour, suggest that my barely clothed child in the sling could be hotter than their wrapped up child in a pushchair! smile Made me laugh after I picked my jaw off the floor! smile

Angie Sea Glass Jewellery from the beautiful South Coast[/color] , Nannie Cool - for beautiful slings, playsilks, toys, nappy wraps and accessories made by Grace’s Nannie. All designs are “Approved by Grace”

I had the exact opposite criticism the other day—I was walking down the street with DD2 in the sling, and she was bawling because she was exhausted.  She wouldn’t nurse or go to sleep, so all I could do was to keep walking and trying to comfort her verbally.  Suddenly 2 elderly men (I’d say they were at least 70) popped out of nowhere, then one grabbed J’s foot and shouted at me, “You should put socks on your baby!  It’s cold today!  It’s only twenty degrees!  Your son is ill! I’m a doctor and I’m telling you, this baby needs socks!  Look how his nose is running! You should clean that up, he’s all dirty!”  [Her nose *was* running, but it was because of how she’d been bawling, not because she was poorly in the least!  And I hadn’t cleaned it because that would only have enraged her further!] 

I was so stunned it was all I could do to reply that she was my baby and I knew how to care for her, thank you very much.  I have no idea if he really was a doctor, but it was just crazy—it was warm enough that DD1 was perfectly comfortable in a sleeveless dress and sandals!  I think part of it is that French people don’t seem to understand that a baby in a sling absorbs your body heat and doesn’t need to be wrapped up, but actually, I was offended because I got a strong sense of both misogyny and xenophobia from the encounter—I don’t think they would’ve done the same had it been DH carrying her, but they see a small foreign-looking woman wearing this strange baby-carrying device and feel free to make all sorts of assumptions about how competent/educated/civilised I am.

Didn’t mean to take over with a rant of my own, but I think the point is the same: people don’t seem to get babywearing, do they?!?  And yet *I* don’t rush around doling out unsolicited advice to mothers pushing prams or pushchairs, so why do they feel free?!?

That is bizarre! I’m always stunned when other people/mums offer me ridiculous advice or opinions ~ I wouldn’t in a million years dream of commenting on or criticising other mums yet they seem to have no problem doing it to me!!

Daughter age 11
Three sons age 10, 7 & 5
Baby girl age 3

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