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Our postman (who we don’t know at all) delivered a parcel yesterday and saw the ‘happy birthday’ sign outside the front door. He then proceeded to sing happy birthday to our youngest very loudly and cheerfully. ( I had to fill in the bit when he got to where the name should go) Her name is Ivy but here it doesn’t exist so unless they know her they wouldn’t know how to spell it or say it by reading it. they usually would say evi. Anyway it was lovely and made our day.
But today there was a birthday card in the letter box for Evi with a 5 euro note in from the postman…..is that nice or spooky.
I can’t imagine he would do that to all the families he delievers too and really I’ve never spoken to him before let alone spoken to him.
Am I just being paranoid

Wandermob
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Maybe he’s just paying it forward? Thank him and judge from the conversation smile

I wouldn’t think he is just being nice although a bit odd I admit, so wouldn’t worry unless he does anything else which makes you uncomfortable.

I once offered a girl a lift at a bus stop trying to pay it forward- think she prob thought I was creepy! Ha ha
I agree with becks- it’s bound to be genuine so judge on that unless he does anything else… Weird! Xx

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I think it’s lovely. Perhaps you are the only family who are nice to him wink

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I would err on the side of “just very nice”. There’s a little old lady who lives in the next street to us who drops £5 of for my kids every festival, simply because we are Jewish. She was walking her dog past when we moved in and saw us putting up our Mezuzah, so every holiday without fail a little card comes through for the girls with a £5 note. We chat to her when we see her walking the dog, and she doesn’t have a family and wants to add to our children’s Jewish upbringing. I guess we can’t always know people’s reasons, but I’d always tend to “ascribe the best possible motive” smile

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I totally understand why you’d wonder but given how upfront and open he has been he’s probably just been nice! I’m always chatting to our postie and from what he says he doesn’t get that many friendly families!

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I think its ok to be cautious, but that we have forgotten now that people can be giving and lovely too.
Our village postman when we were growing up, used to bring us sweetpeas and produce from his allotment!
K x

Oh he sounds lovely! Hubby used to be a postie, always doing good deeds for someone or other. They are often just very cheerful people, these posties! Our post lady is great, she was so welcoming when we moved in.
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haha, everyone else away from this forum has said oh my god, keep clear, watch out, give the money back. Here everyone believes in the good of people grin I spoke about it this morning to my DD’s and said although it was a nice thought we would give the money back and say we couldn’t except it. Then that lead to a conversation, book etc about stranger danger. As we left for school I stuck an envelope on the postbox with the money and a politely declining letter. walking to the car my eldest said ‘‘but what if he was just being kind and giving it back hurts his heart’’ so I ran back took it off the box,  I still think its strange but am hoping he’s just a jolly friendly postman and we’re going with that.
Thanks for your replies

Wandermob
SAHM to Tillie 21/09/2007 and Ivy 31/08/2009.

The aim of education should be to teach us rather how to think, than what to think - rather to improve our minds, so as to enable us to think for ourselves, than to load the memory with thoughts of other men.  ~Bill Beattie

I am very curious, wandermob, are the people who said Watch out, stay away, etc., English?  Not to be offensive but I think there may be a cultural gap going on here grin .  England and the English have many fine points, but friendliness to strangers is, um, not one of them….

Unless he does anything else to give you cause for concern, I’d just take it as a cultural thing, where children are made a fuss of regardless of if they are family or not.

I’m just glad you took it off the postbox! Obviously be on the look out for anything which does make you feel uncomfortable but I think he’d feel quite upset, almost accused, if it was just a kind gesture! He probably just thought Ivy would be really happy with it.

Maybe she could draw him a picture to say thank you, or leave him a little cake so you are giving something back?

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yes all the Belgians and an Irish friend here said it was nothing to worry about, family in the Uk said watch out, GP people all said ‘‘oh how nice’‘
I saw him this morning and said thank you and he genuinely seems just nice. Said he has written the date down in his book for next year and keeps a date for many of the children on his route. grin
Thanks for reminding me to believe in the good.

Wandermob
SAHM to Tillie 21/09/2007 and Ivy 31/08/2009.

The aim of education should be to teach us rather how to think, than what to think - rather to improve our minds, so as to enable us to think for ourselves, than to load the memory with thoughts of other men.  ~Bill Beattie

I think it would be fine here in Switzerland as well. I think the British and American mums here are particularly cautious about strangers. It’s quite sad really.

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