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Struggling with Jude :( She was out of nappies totally - dry day and night until about three weeks ago. Now I have reluctantly put her back in night nappies because we have had to change the sheets every night for a week and a half. Husband wants to put her back in day nappies because she has suddenly (and deliberately ) started weeing on the floor at home. We’ve gone from maybe one accident every couple of weeks to at least two or three a day. She assumes a particular position, so knows what she’s doing, but refuses to use the potty or toilet.  It’s making husband very angry. She was upset to being wearing a night nappy tonight (but wees at night with *no* cues and doesn’t wake) and she would be devestated to go back into nappies. She rarely has an accident outside our home and can hold on until we find a toilet.  What can I do?

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What age is she?  Did anything “new” happen recently?  The same thing happened with my dd2, she was dry day and night from about 18 months (completely instigated by herself) until we went on holiday about 3 months later, and as you describe she deliberately assumed a certain position and started weeing on the floor.  Not what you want to hear, but it took another year to get her “trained” out of nappies during the day (the behaviour continued even after we returned home) and I kid you not she will be nine next month and has had about 3 dry nights since that holiday :-(

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Oh…!

She’s 22months. My husband will leave home if we have to wash bedding every day for the next nine years! How on earth do you cope..?

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Goodness she is still in nappies at night, my patience for sodden bedclothes lasted about three days!  She had been prescribed meds to reduce amount of urine in the hope that she would be dry but to no avail im afraid.

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With Neddie at this age, it was a simple “Nappy or potty” choice.  If he wee’d on the floor then he went into a nappy for a couple of hours as my sanity needs respect (and our floor) as much as his independence does.  It took about 2 months of this before he was dry.  And when it was done with simple practicality, mentioning that the floor would break (it was when we had carpets but broken was the same as damaged in his mind at that age), he seemed to accept and maybe appreciate that he had the control taken away for a couple of hours.  More and more often the nappy was dry when we’d take it off for him to go on the potty. 

With night time, we dream wee’d 2-3 hours after he’d gone to sleep, followed with a feed to go back to sleep.

Bladders are strange organs.  They often regress in all ages of people but with gentle, calm, age appropriate explanation, they can be retrained fairly quickly.  Night enuresis aside, even if you ‘make mistakes’ now, as understand grows and gentle explanations are made, children can understand how their bodies work and use that information to control their bladders.

Firstly - for Umsaalam (sorry to use Angie’s thread to go off topic)- we have just successfully got our 9 yr old out of nappies- using the bed wetting alarm- took about three months and had some very low points with despondency ( in us all) - very hard to go back to waking x3 a night for a nine year old - but all of a sudden he clicked and has been dry reliably for 5 months now…. Medication would have been the next step for us- pm me if you want!! Have you seen the ERIC website??

For Angie I would say I can understand the night nappies- as mentioned above x3 lots of bedding per day is really no fun especially now we are heading into winter! I guess I would try to avoid the day nappies as that feels like an awful big backward step - but she is very young. Continence is so linked to self esteem and I am sure that some of the things we have had to battle through with our nine year old have some basis in the decisions we made when SJ was 2 and day time ‘training’ was happening- like Everyman and his dog saying ‘wait whilst you have a new baby in the house’ leading to us leaving him in nappies when the signs were there- as well as using timed toileting - stupid books!!

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