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 So I’ve come full circle and am thinking of flexi-schooling my boys again… they’re currently in full-time mainstream schooling and hating it… can anyone give me a brief overview in regards to what I am and aren’t allowed to do and how I approach the school to start the process, I know a few of you flexi-school in here x

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As it is purely an agreement between you and the head teacher it all depends on your relationship. They have no obligation to say yes. I wrote a letter explaining my plans and the advantages for my son, but the headteacher refused and actually in the end it worked out fine with full time school for him. I would make sure you look carefully at the school week- how can you minimize disruption to the class teacher? how can you keep momentum of school projects that are running over 1+ weeks? Can you be flexible with which days you HE and which days they are in school- would that help the school? Having children in and out of class can be a nightmare for teachers, so try to make it as easy as possible for them. Are you planning a certain number of days out per week, or per term/half term? Think about what you are trying to achieve- how will they maintain their friendships when they are in and out? These are all the things the school is going to question so have answers ready. Good luck.

Like Moggy says it is up to the school at the end of the day.  If their school won’t do it would it work for you to find an alternative school or is that going to be too difficult?  Are you on Facebook?  There are of loads of home ed groups on there it might be worth getting touch with your local one(s) there are flexi schooling groups on there too.  We have loads of schools round our way that do it but they are small rural schools which would be threatened with closure so they welcome home edders with open arms smile

Thank you for replying, so what would happen if I just didn’t take them to school on the days I plan to home ed them?

We’re in inner city Birmingham and school places are really hard to come by, everywhere has waiting lists, it’s ridiculous

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If you just don’t take them to school it is an ‘unauthorized absence’ = school will investigate, could maybe get fines for unauthorised absences, and ultimately it is Social Services and Local Authority who’d get involved - failing to get your child to school - it is basically truancy. You have to actually de-register, (so full-time HE) or have an agreement for authorized absences (= flexi schooling) to avoid trouble.

I’m fairly certain the head won’t agree

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Mommy to Jacob (13.03.04), Joe-Joe (17.01.10) Noah (02.03.11) and Thomas (19.05.13)

Taking baby steps towards a more sustainable, conscientious lifestyle.

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Have you addressed the reasons why your sons are hating it?
If you go through that process first, talking to teachers/head of year/head teacher, go to Governors if you feel you are not getting anywhere… finding solutions, trying things out, then you can build up to the possible solution of flexi, maybe by then the school may start to see it as a possible solution.
If it is to do with bullying then confront school with their anti-bullying policy and ask for a plan of action. Are they bored and not being challenged?- ask about high-achievers and how the school are stretching the most able…?

They hate it because they’re sat at a desk for almost 6 hours a day.  Their education is neither creative or imaginative. They’re not bullied but they don’t have close friends, they’re also not high achievers, just average children.  I’m hoping to compliment what they’re learning sat at their desks with real life experiences to cement it on their learning journey rather than equipping them only with how to pass a test if that makes sense x

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Mommy to Jacob (13.03.04), Joe-Joe (17.01.10) Noah (02.03.11) and Thomas (19.05.13)

Taking baby steps towards a more sustainable, conscientious lifestyle.

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I tried this with my eldest son, but sadly it was too disruptive so I took him out of school completely, it was the best thing I have ever done.

Home Eding Mama of 2 gorgeous boys! Trying to live magically on this wild and crazy earth.

My Legacy, in my head I’d love to home Ed full time but if I’m honest with myself I would be rubbish, I have neither the academic, leadership or emotional skill to complete such a task, in theory flexi-schooling could work beautifully with me supporting the children’s learning rather than me providing it but I fear it’s going to be harder than I’d hoped.

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Mommy to Jacob (13.03.04), Joe-Joe (17.01.10) Noah (02.03.11) and Thomas (19.05.13)

Taking baby steps towards a more sustainable, conscientious lifestyle.

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I am guessing that if you home edded you would want a structured approach from what you have said here?  Is that because your children need that or because you feel they do?

Sorry it’s taken so long to get back to you sustainablemum!!!  Erm???  I’m not really sure what I think our flexischooling journey would look like…???  I’m not even sure I’d be capable of doing it…  I don’t think the school they’re currently at are going to allow it so now I’m going to view another school tomorrow but it’s 13 miles away and they don’t have a space for my youngest… who knows, all I know right now is that the school they’re currently at isn’t working.  I don’t know how I’d manage if I home edded full time (something I have considered before) but I’m worried they’d spend all their time in front of screens or fighting :’-(

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Mommy to Jacob (13.03.04), Joe-Joe (17.01.10) Noah (02.03.11) and Thomas (19.05.13)

Taking baby steps towards a more sustainable, conscientious lifestyle.

http://myfreerangethree.wordpress.com/

Sorry I meant to say full time in my last post!  You seemed to be doubting your ability?  You as their mother know them best and will always be their best ‘teacher’, that doesn’t mean that you have to spend hours preparing lessons, but a small amount of preparation does prevent the fighting/arguing/disagreeing and the constant screen time requests.  Could you take them out now with it being so close to the end of term and try it?  If they do start fighting etc you could always use the threat of school….....

Hi TeamCarr,
I feel for you in your dilemma. I wonder if you studied more about home education so you really understood the different approaches you could take, you might feel that you could undertake it?
I highly recommend you immerse yourself in the writing of John Holt, and lots of blogs written my home educating parents.
There are so many different approaches to suit different children and adults that you may find one that you feel comfortable with. Many families use a blend of approaches to suit their needs.
I highly recommend reading the work of Ross Mountnay. She is a seasoned home ed parent who specialises in giving confidence to others so they can do the best they can for their children.
If you are on Facebook I recommend searching for her and also signing up for her newsletter on her website https://rossmountney.wordpress.com.
There is lots to read on her site and she has lists of other useful blogs too. She has written several helpful books as well.
You are such a caring mum I’m sure you will find the best solution for everyone in your family.

I’ve recently finished a book called The Child Whisperer by Carol Tuttle where she classifies children (and adults) into 4 main types of expressions of energy - how we see and experience life. She has such a respectful approach to children it was a joy to read. Actually, I listened to it on audible so I could multitask while I cooked cleaned.
When we truly understand what our children’s true expression is and therefore what they need from us to thrive it makes living together so much easier. I’m thinking that learning about this may solve your fear that your children would spend all their time in front of screens or fighting.
I hope you find what’s best for you and your children.
Patricia

Hi Patricia, I love Ross Mountney too. I have her latest book and love dipping into it whenever I am having a ‘wobble’.  The book you are recommending sounds really interesting, thank you for sharing!

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