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I’m new to this forum, seeking advice after a stormy confrontation with my mother-in-law, let’s call her ‘S’, over Christmas (cliche alert!). After months of hushed whispers and disapproving groans whenever my daughter demanded “mummy’s milk”, S finally exploded, accusing me and my husband of being “cruel” and upsetting the entire family by encouraging my daughter’s “addiction” to breastmilk. Daughter is just over two years old. The finally tempest passed its zenith a day later when S apologised in floods of tears.
S was fine about breastfeeding for the first year, but not beyond that. I feel now, while she is at her most contrite, would be the best time to show her informed, balanced research showing the benefits of extended breastfeeding to encourage her to change her mind. Can anyone help? She knows NHS and World Health Organisation recommend nursing to at least two, but that hasn’t made much impact.
To be honest, it’s your body, your child, your decision. You know best. It’s your own intuitive knowing at play here. You shouldn’t have to justify your reasons to anyone. Just because your MIL doesn’t agree doesn’t make it wrong. Everyone is different and has different ways of doing things. She should respect this and let you do it your way. I’ve had various battles over the years with mine over what she thought I should be doing with my daughter, her first grandchild. I think it was a control thing with her. She couldn’t bear that I didn’t do things the way she wanted me to. You may have to explain to her that you want to be left to bring up your child the way you want to, even if it means you make mistakes along the way. It’s your privilege as a mother to experience this learning your way and if the situation ever arose where you needed her advice then you would ask.
I breastfed both my children, my daughter til she was 2 1/2 and my son just past his 2nd birthday. The health benefits for both mother and child are well researched. I remember my daughter getting rotavirus aged 2+ and being thankful that I was still able to give her breastmilk which undoubtedly helped her recover quickly.
You’re doing a fantastic job.
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