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Good morning all. I wondered if other parents with children of preschool age had issues with local authorities over the difficulties of persuading a highly (emphasis on highly..) sensitive child to actually enter a preschool building? Our amazing son is 4,5 and is expected to start primary school in September along with all the other ‘normal’ children. Expected to start by the authorities that is; we, his parents, have a different perspective and whereas we hope he’ll be ready to do so, it seems highly likely he’ll continue to refuse. His reasons for not going to preschool are straightforward and represent unassailable logic from a HSC viewpoint: “It’s too loud, too many children there and it’s boring”. “Boring” is code for not wishing to be told to participate in “silly games”. He is bright and nursery rhymes and the like have never interested him in the least. Books on dinosaurs or space travel now, that’d be a very different matter.

We visited the Primary School we’ve enrolled him in this morning. His preschool is adjoined. Another in a series of around 10 such visits during which we’ve tried to encourage and cajole him into at least sitting in a preschool class with children his age. He did at least allow us to carry him into the classroom though he refused to participate in any activities. On the way out we were ‘summoned’ by the deputy head of the Primary School to be told the school didn’t believe they were in a position to support the presence  of a child with ‘clear anxiety issues’ , that they’d expended too much time and school resources already and that we ought to look for a school elsewhere that has appropriate levels of resources and facilities. She explained that had he been diagnosed with ‘something recognised like ADHD or Aspergers’ she could apply for funding and assistance. Since it was clear he  had (in her professional opinion..) ‘anxiety issues’ she advised strongly against his attendance at her school.


We’re going to talk to admissions again clearly and will now consider how we might home school him, though there will of course be a financial component to that which is a little daunting.. Any advice from those with similar challenges or experience is most warmly welcomed. 

Hope to hear from you good people out there soon.

Have a marvellous day.

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